|What I have learned throughout my life and all the times I have failed, crashed and burned is that IMPACT can be measured in many different ways, and the way you decide to measure it can define how close or far away you feel from your success.|
|This is me…. Last Friday, May 5th….. I found myself standing in a room full of open hearts, sharing with them the lesson that I believe is the key to happiness: Always Be Yourself.|
When I left the stage, my entire body was vibrating SO HIGH, SO STRONG that I KNEW in my heart I was fully connected with my life’s purpose.
This experience reminded me of a conversation I had with a client last year, who was feeling exhausted and ready to give up on her small business. No matter how hard she tried, there was always something else to achieve, and she felt like there was no space to celebrate her wins. It was as if she was in a hamster wheel, always chasing the new win, the new challenge, and that made her exhausted.
As a business owner, I know firsthand how hard and scary this path can be, and my heart went out to her. I asked her what success meant to her, and she replied, “Impact! The impact I create in others, changing lives! I want to be able to help others see their potential and live better lives…” She didn’t care about money but was here for the impact. I used to feel the same way.
So, I took a pause and asked her:
What happens if the IMPACT that you want is not as BIG as you want it?
What are you using to measure impact??
How can we really measure it?
She didn’t know what to say…
And, you see… this was my problem for many years.
For a long time, I held myself back by measuring impact based on its size. I had always pictured myself in a big stadium full of thousands (or even millions) of people singing my songs with peace in their hearts. While I still sometimes dream about that moment, I also realized that this same image was holding me down. I had become so focused on that one goal that I was missing what was happening in the here and now. I had created a connection between impact and size, which made me feel like something was always missing. THAT same goal made me operate from lack over and over again. My career became a rat race always searching for the next success, the next opportunity, the bigger stage… just like she was feeling in the moment of our conversation.
What I have learned throughout my life and all the times I have failed, crashed and burned is that IMPACT can be measured in many different ways, and the way you decide to measure it can define how close or far away you feel from your success.
After years of searching for that big image, I asked myself: What is it that I really want?
The answer was clear: I wanted to be myself.
I wanted to write what my heart wanted, sing what my heart wanted, and do what I loved the most. I realized that I had become so focused on the size of my impact that I had lost sight of its true source: THE MOMENT.
Because I was focused on the MILLIONS of people I wanted to impact, my road got derailed, and I started searching the Size and not the source!
When I shared this story with my client, she did a deep dive into all the people she was already impacting in THAT moment and realized that she was extremely successful. Her whole demeanor changed, her energy shifted, and she started feeling good enough and worthy. The very next month, she landed a client who paid her double the amount she used to charge, and even though it was only one person, she was feeling the impact she was making in her life.
When I think about impact I think about my clients, melting down in front of me and sharing their deepest darkest secrets, and wanting to heal from their pain and still believing their lives can be different… THAT is impact..Their COURAGE impacts ME, inspires ME to keep seeing beyond the darkness, to keep seeking beyond the pain and to find the root of what makes us human, our authenticity.
To me, impact is being able to be myself, raw and vulnerable, on a stage in front of however many people are there. Without any costume, mask, or pretending to be someone else.
Just being ME!
There is nothing better in this world than being yourself. It requires no effort, is free, and it will give you joy and energy instead of taking it away. This is true not just professionally, but also in relationships, in the community, as a parent, and with yourself. If you can’t or don’t know how to connect with your truth, seek support.
I promise you that a life in complete authenticity will be the best gift you will ever give to yourself.