|“What hitting that ball has taught me is that no matter how much I want to STRATEGIZE the swing, what really matters is how connected I FEEL to myself in the moment and how much I allow for flow to guide me.|
|I wanted to share something incredibly powerful with you, something that I believe can truly support and inspire you!|
A couple of years ago, Arabia introduced me to golf. Now, I have to admit, for the longest time I thought golf was a simple and somewhat boring sport. Just hitting a ball and waiting for it to find its way into a hole? How wrong I was! It didn’t take long for me to realize that golf is an incredibly challenging sport that demands both physical and mental strength.
But you know what I love most about golf? It’s the level of presence it requires from me to truly control the ball. You see, one of my biggest life challenges is learning to “release control.” I’m an energetic leader (as you already know) with service flowing through my veins. Ensuring that everything goes exactly as I want it to be is a quirk I’ve struggled with. Growing up in an environment that demanded perfection of me, becoming a control freak became my shield, protecting me from potential rejection by my parents, bullying at school, and all the vulnerabilities that came with it.
However, there are times when I can’t help but embrace my control freak side (and yes, I love myself for it). So, when I first started playing golf, I wanted to know everything about ball strategy, creating the perfect swing, and the precise positions I should adopt. But here’s what I discovered: while all of that is important, the most crucial element for a great swing is FLOW.
Yes, flow. I have realized that the more relaxed I am, the less I overthink it, and the better I perform. Hitting that ball has taught me that no matter how much I strategize my swing, what truly matters is how connected I feel in the present moment and how much I allow myself to flow. The more present I am, the better my swing becomes, as if my body instinctively knows what to do. Only by releasing control can I enable it to perform at its best.
It’s fascinating to me how many parallels I find between golf and life. Have you ever experienced a situation where you had to let go of the need to be in control and simply surrender? And when you did, did things somehow magically fall into place and get resolved? It’s almost as if events had a mind of their own!
Here’s what I’ve learned: we can be both participants and observers of life. We can strategize, plan, and have a vision of the direction we want to take. But the real magic happens when we learn to flow with the present moment, when we practice acceptance of what is, and when we step back and allow things to unfold naturally.
Now, here’s the million-dollar question: How do we do that?
Well, I believe it all comes down to one thing: trust.
Trusting that, no matter what, everything is well.
Trusting that EVERYTHING is ALWAYS working in your favor, even when it doesn’t feel like it or seem like it.
TRUSTING that deep down inside, you always have ALL you need and more.
I believe our need for control stems from our childhood experiences. As kids, we aren’t always taught that we will be taken care of unconditionally. We aren’t reassured that we will be loved no matter what! And this happens because our parents, too, may not feel safe. Because they don’t trust their parents or their environment, they don’t know how to teach us how to trust.
For me, trust has been the most challenging lesson I’ve had to learn (and if I’m honest, I’m still learning). However, what truly helped me was understanding that trust doesn’t depend on anything or anyone else but myself. No external factor can give me the reassurance and peace I need to feel safe and to TRUST that I’ll be okay no matter what. The only source of that trust resides within me.
Knowing that I have myself, that I am my home, and that I possess everything I need has given me the courage to take risks, be vulnerable, release control, and surrender to the present moment. I trust that whatever happens is always for my benefit. I trust that my life has a higher intelligence, a mind of its own, that knows better than I do. So, I simply let go and allow it to guide me.
This is what learning to play golf has reminded me of and giving myself the opportunity to learn it, fail at it (haha), and figure it out has made me a better player both in golf and in life! and has helped me to enjoy the game of life so much more! at the end of the day, it’s all about finding the sweet spot, the right combination between dong and being, and TRUSTING that everything will fall into place!
I wanted to share this with you because we are surrounded by opportunities to learn, to grow, and to heal our wounds. My wish for everyone in this world is that they embrace their own journey of self-discovery and trust, allowing themselves to surrender control and experience the beautiful magic that unfolds as a result.
With love and trust,